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Self Help: How To Achieve Your Dreams

Are you a dreamer? Well, here are some tips to hopefully help you achieve your dreams, by Rosa Fairfield.

Photographs by Linda Smith

I've always been a very creative-career orientated person and it's what I tend to prioritise, which is what lead me to write this post on achieving dreams. That being said, dreams don't always have to be career orientated, they could be spiritual or about relationships etc. There's no tried and testing method for how to achieve your dreams but here are a few of my personal tips:

Do you want success or to do the actual activity?
This year I feel like I have achieved my goal of becoming an actress. No, I haven't been in any big-budget Hollywood films and my face isn't over every magazine cover. Yet, this year I've been creating my own short films and comedy sketches and putting them on YouTube and submitting to film festivals etc, as well. So what, I may not have actually technically earned any money, in fact I invested a lot of money in these projects... but I have spent a large part of the year acting. It was then that I realised that achieving your dreams isn't really about success, money or awards - it's about getting to do the thing you love.

There's always a solution to a problem
When I was 13, I decided I wanted to model for a magazine. I knew that deep down I hadn't really got the right look to be a model though. That's when I saw a competition in a magazine. You had to design an outfit and if you won you got to go and do a photoshoot and have the pictures featured in the magazine. I've always been artistic so I entered and I won and my photoshoot was in the magazine. Sometimes you have to use your other skills to achieve your goals, play to your strengths. If the traditional route isn't working for you, think of ways outside the box to achieve a dream.

There will always be good days and bad days
People tend to give up on their dreams because they start on the path towards them and they realise it's not what they imagined it would be like. I mean... career wise, even if you're doing what you love there will be good days and bad days. I love blogging but sometimes I just want to throw my laptop out the window and I've cried more than once over a photoshoot. It's definitely worth it though for all the days where it makes me so extremely happy that I can't stop smiling. Never give up.

What are you willing to put yourself through
I'm using career orientated examples here... but sometimes to achieve your dreams you end up having to travel across the country in the middle of the night, try to live off the lack of money in your bank account... risk relationships. It's hard and sometimes you can't have it all and end up having to make difficult decisions. It's all about recognising what's most important to you and there's no right or wrong answer to that.

Money isn't everything
I don't think you can really measure your dreams by how much money you make. Okay, maybe that's a lie, I guess that's the case if your dream is to earn a lot of money... then that's a perfect way to measure it.

I think a lot of people use a lack of money as an excuse for not chasing their dreams. Sure, money does tend to make things easier but there's always a way. You just have to be resourceful.