Advice: Is Style Blogging a Self-Centred Profession?

This is a rather personal post, with me questioning if my career choices are self-centred, by Rosa Fairfield. 

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This is a question I've been asking myself for a while. It started when I was about a year into this blogging biz. It sorta registered that I had a Instagram feed full of photographs of myself. It made me cringe and that paired with the way people had started treating me made me question what I was doing. Is promoting yourself and posting pictures of yourself online self-centred?

Why did I start my blog?
First and foremost I class myself as a performer. I have an acting degree and that's my main career goal and never have I for a second questioned if an acting career is self-centred, even though it's usually perceived as vain. That's because movies were my everything growing up. I was shy, an outsider and struggled to make friends. I found a comfort in being able to relate to certain characters in movies. Movies can help people and people get enjoyment from them. My desire to be part of that came from me wanting to give something back, by inspiring people, like I had been inspired.

Blogging, for me, was just another branch to that tree. Reading about people's first hand experiences, and seeing their photos, made me feel inspired and connected to the world around me. It was another opportunity for me to try to create that for others.

Do influencers have a negative influence?
Now I've explained all that. Next came the period when people started to express that influencers and bloggers were having a negative effect on people's mental health. Like I said above, I wanted to start my blog to inspire and encourage people not to basically go 'ha, ha, I'm better than you'. I thought people got enjoyment out of it and to think it was having the opposite effect made me seriously consider if I wanted to do it anymore. That is what made me really start to question if it was a selfish career choice.

Is being self-centred a bad thing?
Let's put that all aside for a second and go back to basics. If blogging has a self-centred element to it, does that make it a bad thing? I was having this conversation with someone. This question came up: Could any profession that someone enjoys be called self-centred? I guess that's an interesting notion of intention. In a way, humans by nature are a little self-centred, even when we are directly helping others, there's a tiny part of us that finds self-satisatiction in it. Then again, if you are doing something selfless grudgingly is that really any better?

I guess there has to be a balance of doing things for yourself and others. How can you help anyone else if you can't help yourself? I think it's important and healthy to build a life that you love, in order to inspire others.

Can you be both?
That brings me to my last point. Can you be both self-centred and selfless? Can you take somethings and give other things? There are lots of bloggers out their who donate to charity and raise money through various events.

Thanks for reading. I'm not sure I've really come to a conclusion on this but it's one of those opinion related topics so I guess there isn't really any right or wrong answer. What are your thoughts? Please comment bellow.

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Comments

  1. I love your fashion and style posts, and I love looking at the photos you post of yourself!!!
    You look fabulous rocking that denim blue button-down belted mini-shirt-dress!!!!!!
    I do think bloggers can be both self-centred and selfless. I suspect that almost all fashionista bloggers whose blog posts I've read are a little bit of each, and that the balance varies from day to day. I think that's healthy and normal, even if we as bloggers aren't quite.
    It would seem odd to me to post one's own outfit selfies that were not of one's self unless one had multiple selves. I wonder if those with multiple selves can still be self-centred?
    I've been procrastinating on taking new outfit photos and videos for my blog. Maybe it will help if I look at my own outfit photos more as selfless selfies - or allow me to convince myself that I'm making sense?
    Regardless, I really, really love looking at your outfit photos!

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  2. This was such an interesting and thought provoking post to read so thanks for sharing. I love all of your photos too - those heart sunnies are gorgeous!

    Heather xoxo
    https://www.hefafa.me.uk

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  3. I loved this post! Such an interesting topic and I can relate to so much that you said. I love how bloggers take from their own personal experiences and often help and inspire other people from them. In the past 6 months I've started writing more self-help topics and covering issues I never would have spoken up about before <3

    Sophie | soinspo xo

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  4. I think it's inevitable that people will perceive blogging as self-centred because a blog is supposed to be your own corner of the internet, but there is nothing wrong with that if you help people, spread a positive message and share your story, whatever that may be. And blogs would be pretty boring to read if they didn't have any personality behind them, which yours certainly does and that's one of the reasons why I love your posts!

    Maria | inaccordance

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  5. Love your outfit in this. I think if you've got low self-esteem, and compare yourself to others, then influencers can have a negative impact, but it really depends on the each individuals wellbeing in the first place. I think there are a lot of influencers who negatively influence in the sense of weight loss products too!

    Lauren xx - bylaurenjane

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